Important

For more than 30 years, I led my life trying to feel good and, most of all, trying not to feel bad. Far from achieving happiness, it led...

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

When I write, I choose to face the discomfort of writing. I step out of my comfort zone. The hardest thing is to walk through the...

Putting your values in action

Writing has always been important to me. Ever since I was eight years old, I’ve always wanted to write. But in truth, I never felt like writing. I...

Psychotherapy Effectiveness: Why I Measure my Effectiveness

For many years I was a prisoner of a futile struggle against my own suffering. I struggled so long that I naturally developed a burning passion for...

Important

For more than 30 years, I led my life trying to feel good and, most of all, trying not to feel bad. Far from achieving happiness, it led me into a succession of cul-de-sacs. And further and further from happiness. Yes, of course, I sometimes managed to...

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Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

When I write, I choose to face the discomfort of writing. I step out of my comfort zone. The hardest thing is to walk through the barrier of frustrations that have accumulated for decades. My most intense frustration is that after more than ten years of almost daily writing practice, I still never feel like writing. So writing always makes me step out of my comfort zone. Yet, writing is also a way of taking care of myself and moving toward what matters to me, through my actions. Broadly speaking, taking care of myself often involves stepping out of my comfort zone. And for you?

read more

Putting your values in action

Writing has always been important to me. Ever since I was eight years old, I’ve always wanted to write. But in truth, I never felt like writing. I was well in my forties before I discovered that I could write even if I never felt like it. Ten years later, I am on my...

read more

What is stress and how to free yourself from it?

Stress, stress, stress. Life stresses you out. You job stresses you. Your friends stress you. The future stresses you. Everything stresses you, and it’s absolutely normal. For starters, look at the speed of modern life. The thing is, your brain is not...

read more

Am I doing the right thing?

We’ve all been there. 3 a.m. You’re beat, but your mind won’t let you sleep. Like a dog with a bone, it keeps noisily gnawing on the same questions. Well, professor Ben Fletcher and his team have sought to identify the questions that keep us up at...

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Personal training

“If only all of life was like the gym”, Jay sighed. Between his hours as a personal trainer, and his own busy exercise regime, Jay could spend up to 30 hours a week at the gym. While he was lifting weights or helping someone else reach their physical best,...

read more

What do other people think of me?

What keeps you up at night ?   We’ve all been there. 3 a.m. You’re beat, but your mind won’t let you sleep. Like a dog with a bone, it keeps noisily gnawing on the same questions. Well, professor Ben Fletcher and his team have sought to identify the...

read more

How to free yourself from body image tyranny?

We live in a world where image is everything. More and more girls, boys, women and men hate their bodies. Artfully photoshopped and CGIed celebs fill your screens. The contrast couldn’t be starker with the image that ambushes you in your bathroom mirror....

read more

What keeps you up at night ?

We’ve all been there. 3 a.m. You’re beat, but your mind won’t let you sleep. Like a dog with a bone, it keeps noisily gnawing on the same questions. Well, professor Ben Fletcher and his team have sought to identify the questions that keep us up at night....

read more

When nothing will ever be the same again

Thanks to Facebook, one of my friends recently had the joy of reconnecting with his friend Lucy*. In their twenties, Lucy and him had been the best of friends. But then they lost touch for some 30 years. His joy at reconnecting was soon overshadowed when...

read more

Gatekeeper or guide?

Life is a jungle. And if as parents, our job is to bring children into the world and let them loose in that jungle. OMG! No wonder most of us parents regularly panic. Today’s blog is based on a lovely metaphor by our Australian friend Darin Cairns. Darin...

read more

Depressive realism

When we are depressed, everything looks dark. Our past, our future and of course our present. The things we loved seem to lose interest, our most precious relationships seem to lose significance. Our view of ourselves take a hit and our self-esteem is...

read more

What to do as a parent if spanking doesn’t work?

The subject of spanking regularly comes back into popular consciousness seems that as soon as there is a discussion about the problem behaviours of kids and teens, folks start bemoaning laws against corporal punishment for children. According to a 2014 UNICEF report,...

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Getting Out of Stuck Loops

We are all born with the gift of an internal advanced autopilot system. It’s one of the most useful things because it helps us to learn to do things automatically, without much thought; like walking up the stairs or driving to work. It doesn’t require us to think much...

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Prisoners of the Matrix

In the famous movie, the Matrix, the Hero Neo discovers that, far from living his real life, he is a prisoner of the Matrix, a network of computers that feeds on humans’ life energy and traps them in a virtual world that denies them their true potential. To free...

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Important

For more than 30 years, I led my life trying to feel good and, most of all, trying not to feel bad. Far from achieving happiness, it led me into a succession of cul-de-sacs. And further and further from happiness. Yes, of course, I sometimes managed to...

read more

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

When I write, I choose to face the discomfort of writing. I step out of my comfort zone. The hardest thing is to walk through the barrier of frustrations that have accumulated for decades. My most intense frustration is that after more than ten years of almost daily writing practice, I still never feel like writing. So writing always makes me step out of my comfort zone. Yet, writing is also a way of taking care of myself and moving toward what matters to me, through my actions. Broadly speaking, taking care of myself often involves stepping out of my comfort zone. And for you?

read more

Putting your values in action

Writing has always been important to me. Ever since I was eight years old, I’ve always wanted to write. But in truth, I never felt like writing. I was well in my forties before I discovered that I could write even if I never felt like it. Ten years later, I am on my...

read more

TEAL, how does it work precisely?

Emails. Calls. Accounting. Technical support. Problem solving. Team management. Customer services. Booking. Is the definition of administrative assistant limited to that? Is the role of an employee limited to a list of tasks? As seen before in CPI goes...

read more

Want meaningful work?

We put our values in action in the workplace At the CPI, we believe our motto of putting your values in action shouldn’t just apply to the clients we train or consult with, but just as much to every member of our team. Here’s the question that we ask of our team...

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What if we relearned to make choices?

Increase the minimum wage. Reduce executive pay. Abolish wage scales… there is much talk of money and what is or isn’t fair remuneration, but what about the decision-making process? I believe we have “unlearned” to make choices. The prospect of being responsible for...

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IPC goes teal

About a year ago, overwhelmed by our institute growth prospects, I approached my local chamber of commerce to get onto their mentorship program. After a couple of months Daniel Blanchette (DB com) became my mentor. As he’s a management consultant, I showed him the ACT...

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Important

For more than 30 years, I led my life trying to feel good and, most of all, trying not to feel bad. Far from achieving happiness, it led me into a succession of cul-de-sacs. And further and further from happiness. Yes, of course, I sometimes managed to...

read more

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

When I write, I choose to face the discomfort of writing. I step out of my comfort zone. The hardest thing is to walk through the barrier of frustrations that have accumulated for decades. My most intense frustration is that after more than ten years of almost daily writing practice, I still never feel like writing. So writing always makes me step out of my comfort zone. Yet, writing is also a way of taking care of myself and moving toward what matters to me, through my actions. Broadly speaking, taking care of myself often involves stepping out of my comfort zone. And for you?

read more

Putting your values in action

Writing has always been important to me. Ever since I was eight years old, I’ve always wanted to write. But in truth, I never felt like writing. I was well in my forties before I discovered that I could write even if I never felt like it. Ten years later, I am on my...

read more

ACT and chronic pain

Pain hurts.  And when it hurts, it’s only natural to want to stop the pain. For most of us, pain is temporary. It signals that something threatens our physical integrity and it helps us take action to move away from danger. In this sense, pain is useful...

read more

The Power of Simple Words

At the CPI, our mission is to put psychological flexibility in the water supply. This is one of the reasons why we are passionate about making ACT as simple as possible. This way, everybody has a chance to get it. We use what we call the “simple words” approach. In...

read more

Loneliness is a serial killer

One of the greatest risk factors for early death, on par with smoking and twice as deadly as obesity or alcohol, is loneliness. We can die from being alone. As human beings, we are the most social of all mammals. Is it a surprise then that social connection and...

read more

When a client relapses

Sue had been doing great. A small, plucky lady beset by panic attacks, she had completed twelve sessions of beautiful and meaningful therapy that had helped her face her anxiety with compassion and kindness. I had been deeply touched by how she’d reconnected with her...

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10 years of ACT

Ten years ago, I was training to become a CBT therapist. I had a strong interest in mindfulness. When my life was chaotic, back in 1994, a friend had taken me to a Zen dojo in a small Paris backstreet. There, in a small and badly lit room I was introduced to...

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Stop Taking Your Clients’ Problems Home With You

Taking your clients’ problems home with you is bad for you. It may not even be the best way to help them get better. Here’s why. Kayla is depressed. She has been in therapy with you for a few months. At first she seemed to make progress. She got a new job and started...

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ACT Matrix and Trauma

John came to consult me for marital and work difficulties. He doesn’t recognize himself. He gets angry at his kids and wife, and just got fired from his work after a blowout at his boss. As we start working together, he tells me about a whole range of traumatic events...

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Important

For more than 30 years, I led my life trying to feel good and, most of all, trying not to feel bad. Far from achieving happiness, it led me into a succession of cul-de-sacs. And further and further from happiness. Yes, of course, I sometimes managed to...

read more

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

When I write, I choose to face the discomfort of writing. I step out of my comfort zone. The hardest thing is to walk through the barrier of frustrations that have accumulated for decades. My most intense frustration is that after more than ten years of almost daily writing practice, I still never feel like writing. So writing always makes me step out of my comfort zone. Yet, writing is also a way of taking care of myself and moving toward what matters to me, through my actions. Broadly speaking, taking care of myself often involves stepping out of my comfort zone. And for you?

read more

Putting your values in action

Writing has always been important to me. Ever since I was eight years old, I’ve always wanted to write. But in truth, I never felt like writing. I was well in my forties before I discovered that I could write even if I never felt like it. Ten years later, I am on my...

read more

What is stress and how to free yourself from it?

Stress, stress, stress. Life stresses you out. You job stresses you. Your friends stress you. The future stresses you. Everything stresses you, and it’s absolutely normal. For starters, look at the speed of modern life. The thing is, your brain is not...

read more

TEAL, how does it work precisely?

Emails. Calls. Accounting. Technical support. Problem solving. Team management. Customer services. Booking. Is the definition of administrative assistant limited to that? Is the role of an employee limited to a list of tasks? As seen before in CPI goes...

read more

Am I doing the right thing?

We’ve all been there. 3 a.m. You’re beat, but your mind won’t let you sleep. Like a dog with a bone, it keeps noisily gnawing on the same questions. Well, professor Ben Fletcher and his team have sought to identify the questions that keep us up at...

read more

Personal training

“If only all of life was like the gym”, Jay sighed. Between his hours as a personal trainer, and his own busy exercise regime, Jay could spend up to 30 hours a week at the gym. While he was lifting weights or helping someone else reach their physical best,...

read more

What do other people think of me?

What keeps you up at night ?   We’ve all been there. 3 a.m. You’re beat, but your mind won’t let you sleep. Like a dog with a bone, it keeps noisily gnawing on the same questions. Well, professor Ben Fletcher and his team have sought to identify the...

read more

How to free yourself from body image tyranny?

We live in a world where image is everything. More and more girls, boys, women and men hate their bodies. Artfully photoshopped and CGIed celebs fill your screens. The contrast couldn’t be starker with the image that ambushes you in your bathroom mirror....

read more

What keeps you up at night ?

We’ve all been there. 3 a.m. You’re beat, but your mind won’t let you sleep. Like a dog with a bone, it keeps noisily gnawing on the same questions. Well, professor Ben Fletcher and his team have sought to identify the questions that keep us up at night....

read more

When nothing will ever be the same again

Thanks to Facebook, one of my friends recently had the joy of reconnecting with his friend Lucy*. In their twenties, Lucy and him had been the best of friends. But then they lost touch for some 30 years. His joy at reconnecting was soon overshadowed when...

read more

Gatekeeper or guide?

Life is a jungle. And if as parents, our job is to bring children into the world and let them loose in that jungle. OMG! No wonder most of us parents regularly panic. Today’s blog is based on a lovely metaphor by our Australian friend Darin Cairns. Darin...

read more

Depressive realism

When we are depressed, everything looks dark. Our past, our future and of course our present. The things we loved seem to lose interest, our most precious relationships seem to lose significance. Our view of ourselves take a hit and our self-esteem is...

read more

ACT and chronic pain

Pain hurts.  And when it hurts, it’s only natural to want to stop the pain. For most of us, pain is temporary. It signals that something threatens our physical integrity and it helps us take action to move away from danger. In this sense, pain is useful...

read more

The Power of Simple Words

At the CPI, our mission is to put psychological flexibility in the water supply. This is one of the reasons why we are passionate about making ACT as simple as possible. This way, everybody has a chance to get it. We use what we call the “simple words” approach. In...

read more

Loneliness is a serial killer

One of the greatest risk factors for early death, on par with smoking and twice as deadly as obesity or alcohol, is loneliness. We can die from being alone. As human beings, we are the most social of all mammals. Is it a surprise then that social connection and...

read more

What to do as a parent if spanking doesn’t work?

The subject of spanking regularly comes back into popular consciousness seems that as soon as there is a discussion about the problem behaviours of kids and teens, folks start bemoaning laws against corporal punishment for children. According to a 2014 UNICEF report,...

read more